You lose but you gain!

Please go…

I could feel my personal space begin to close…

Why?! Why do you catch me when everything is shut off. Why do you interrupt my silence? Haven’t you done enough? Taken enough? Why do you keep coming back?

Slowly walking towards me, I try and wrestle him off me… by now you’d think I would learn how to handle it…

I reluctantly give up my fighting. It is useless anyways. I collapse onto the sand and my grief sits right beside me. Like a friend who just wants to be near.

Why can’t you just let me live my life? I ask.

But, I am… this is a part of it.

How? You’re so cold, callous and evoke so much pain.

Without embracing me, as painful as it is, you will never fully live… it’s only when we lose that we gain.

How is that even possible? How could you say that?

We lose things, our work, or the people we love and we gain perspective. We see through the lens of loss, and in that others can gain from our seemly unbearable pain.

But why does it hurt so much? Why can’t you just not exist?

Because I remind you of what’s real. I remove preconceived notions. I remove the fluff, the surface level conversations. I strip away all the realities you have a tendency to create and remind you of the importance of not just life but this very moment. Each moment is a gift. You struggle with spiritually amnesia which is why I keep coming back.

Without me joy wouldn’t make much sense. Life is not a straight road but road through deep dark valleys and beautiful mountain peaks. It’s only when you embrace the sun setting, you gain an appreciation of the sun rising.

Were there no darkness you’d not appreciate the light..

You lose but you gain…

Reluctantly I, yet again, let grief be my friend. After he spoke, he didn’t speak again… his silence was deafening… but I know when these tears stop… I’ll have more room for the joy that I cannot see, but eventually will be…

Grieving in a way is an act of faith… It takes faith to let the pain flow up trusting that the joy will eventually fill you back up… knowing that one day He will wipe every tear from my eyes.