2017: The Death of my Dreams and Goals


I sat down January 1st and wrote my goals for 2017. Then I realized that this year may possibly be the death of my dreams and goals.

It is not that I have no hopes, dreams and goals. In fact, the last few months I have had more dreams, hopes and goals than I ever have. However, what if my hopes, dreams and goals don’t line up with God’s desire for my life? What if His goals look differently than mine?

What if writing a book brings more glory to me than Him? I pray that would never be the case, but I am capable of the worst sin. What if God knew that the best thing for me was to suffer? Because in suffering, I have sweet fellowship with Him. What if this year entails more loss? What if it means not getting married? What if it means to be away from my family? Am I okay with the death of my dreams for the fulfillment of God?

After I wrote my dreams and goals for 2017, I wrestled through these questions. I felt like I was slowly dying. Dreams and desires tend to be deep seating within the human heart.  But what if, instead of fighting to achieve them,  I let them go?

The verse that came to mind was John 12:24 which says, “Very truly I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds.” So in a sense, by laying down my will, I’m killing my will.

In all honesty, this is very difficult for me. It’s a hard pill to swallow- especially lately. I have so much I want to do, and I am so excited about the possibilities. I really want some things. I want to fight for what I want. I was reminded again last night that it’s not about me. It’s about Jesus. It’s about His will- not mine!

If He is asking for my dreams and desire – He can have them. He is the one who places certain desires in our hearts. I believe that sometimes those desires get fulfilled, and sometimes those desires are to strengthen and weaken me at the same time. Strengthen my dependence on Him, and weaken my dependence on myself.

So, I hit a few punching bags and prayed. I prayed that God would kill the dreams that aren’t from Him.

I want to have an open hand. So, if that means I never get married or never live close to family, or never become much of anything in the world’s standard – okay. Let it be what it may. My ultimate goal this year should be to love God better than I have any other year. Ultimately, that is the reason I live.

I hope that when God sees me, He knows that if He asked me to do hard things for Him-I would.

This day, this month, this year, this life is NOT about me but about Christ. I want to be more in love with the dream-giver than the dream and desires.

So I may have taken a moment to grieve. I took a moment to let go of certain things and cried. Then, I got back up, wiped my tears and got going.

I’ve learned it’s okay to cry over things that God tells us no to. We are human. But we cannot dwell on the loss. We have to, by faith, keep moving. It is not easy. Like I said, I punched and kicked a few punching bags to get out my frustration. But God is a good Father and His desires and dreams for us are ALWAYS better than ours. They may not be what we expect, but they are good.

Please take a moment to listen to this song (Once and for All – Lauren Daigle): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Btfz9qKXUIk

Let the letting go begin and the loving start <3!

2 thoughts on “2017: The Death of my Dreams and Goals

  1. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, emotions, fear and hope! It’s the topic I am dealing with at the moment, too. It is so good to see that other women are struggling with it as well and feel the same in giving the dreams to God because only he can give us what we really need. So often I am afraid that God will lead me somewhere I never wanted to go, so I am holding on to my dreams and ideas. But we should never forget that God gives us even more than we expect! 🙂 So I follow you in saying: Let the letting go begin and the loving start❤!
    Love from Germany! ❤

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    1. Hello Anna!
      Thank you for sharing. You’re so right. I saw a quote once that said, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear”. I know dear is a huge tactic of the enemy. He wants us to be afraid of where God might send us or have us do. But God is a good Father who gives good gift and no matter where or what we must do- He’s with us! And life is more exciting after we let go and more freeing ❤! Thanks again for writing!
      P.S. I love your country ❤ It’s so beautiful!


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